Our experiences shape our views, beliefs and reaction to things. It affects the version we want to be, and we will be in future. And it changes our response to grief and loss. It can be the identity that we want other people to see, like how we choose the treasure of ashes to glass for the remains of our loved ones.
The choices we made today are the product of what we experienced yesterday. It is the person we are seeing right now. It contributed to our future and created a path that leads us to the life that we have today. Thus, these past events are the reasons why we think of things differently.
It can be good or bad, but they affect our emotions and how we perceive things in our lives. Moreover, since we grieve differently and based on what we experience with the past events in our lives, we can think differently amongst the others. Some people may say that we are no longer in our usual sense because of what happened. But it is who we are that they did not know.
That is how past events in our lives affect the future. It will make or break our tomorrow like we don't know what life brings us for the following days, weeks, months and even years. The way we react to the things surrounding us results from what we have in the past and will continue for the rest of our lives. It is because we are already accustomed to it.
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When someone passes away in our family, we grieve depending on how we see the passing of our loved ones. It affects the relationship we have with our family. We can either get close to them or distance ourselves to them and feel the pain alone.
Our tomorrow is unknown, but the past events in our lives help us be strong and courageous on the things life will give us. What we feel today in everything, sadness and happiness, result from what we had in the past that we can't let go of. It is like how we never forget about the memories we create with the person.
Our minds selected things to remember and reminded us that life does not end when the person we trust, respect, and value has passed away. When we have something in the past that we cannot let go of and set ourselves free, it will affect our mind, body and emotions.
● Let go of the past things that hold us to be more productive in life.
It is not easy to let go of the things that keep buzzing in our minds every minute of every day or whenever we are asleep. But to think of what lies ahead of us. We grieve on the things lost in our hands, but we suffer more for the people we can no longer see for the rest of our lives.
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They will become a memory. But even if we say we are fine and doing good in life, there is still a portion in our hearts and minds that needs to heal. Some of these are not from our loss. But the previous events in our lives that we have already outgrown but never forgotten. And the loss that we had added to what is already inside. Letting go is the best thing in starting a new journey.
● Heal from the hurtings you had in the past.
When things trigger your emotions, you will remember what you had from the past and start crying—staying away from the people you don't want to know that you are hurt and remember what you have experienced from the past. You need to set yourself free from what needs to be let, so you can focus on overcoming the grief you have for your loss.
We can't start looking for an excellent reason to move on from our grief because we still cling to the past things. The hurt that you felt from the past is needed to be eradicated. In that way, you can start minding out your grief and not mending the past pain you experience to what you feel with the loss you have right now.
● Turn your sorrow into joy.
The calmer we can get through the pain of losing a loved one today when we start letting go of the past hurts that we have, the more relaxed we can get through losing a loved one today. We can get through the storm of life quickly. Even though it is a process, it is easier for us to adjust to new things once we have already let go of our excess baggage from the past.
We can turn our sorrow into joy by looking at the ashes to glass keepsakes that we have for the remains of our loved ones. You can be inspired by looking at the piece you choose to remember your loved ones. It is a great relief to know that even if they are no longer around and you are processing letting go of the past, you still have their support through the keepsake.
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